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Emotions are the most powerful forces inside us. Under the power of emotions, human beings can perform the most heroic (as well as barbaric) acts. To a great degree, civilization itself can be defined as the intelligent channeling of human emotion. Emotions are fuel and the mind is the pilot, which together propel the ship of civilized progress.

Which emotions cause people to act? There are four basic ones; each, or a combination of several, can trigger the most incredible activity. The day that you allow these emotions to fuel your desire is the day you’ll turn your life around.

1) DISGUST

One does not usually equate the word “disgust” with positive action. And yet properly channeled, disgust can change a person’s life. The person who feels disgusted has reached a point of no return. He or she is ready to throw down the gauntlet at life and say, “I’ve had it!” That’s what I said after many humiliating experiences at age 25, I said. “I don’t want to live like this anymore. I’ve had it with being broke. I’ve had it with being embarrassed, and I’ve had it with lying.”

Yes, productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, “Enough is enough.”

The “guy” has finally had it with mediocrity. He’s had it with those awful sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He then decides he is not going to live like this anymore.” Look out! This could be the day that turns a life around. Call it what you will, the “I’ve had it” day, the “never again” day, the “enough’s enough” day. Whatever you call it, it’s powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching disgust!

2) DECISION


Most of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once we reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now this fork can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder that decision-making can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the middle of the night, or make us break out in a cold sweat.

Making life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war. Conflicting armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons, battle each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions, whether bold or timid, well thought out or impulsive, can either set the course of action or blind it. I don’t have much advice to give you about decision-making except this:
Whatever you do, don’t camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It’s far better to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.

3) DESIRE


How does one gain desire? I don’t think I can answer this directly because there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:

a. It comes from the inside not the outside.

b. It can be triggered by outside forces.

Almost anything can trigger desire. It’s a matter of timing as much as preparation. It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might be a memorable sermon. It might be a movie, a conversation with a friend, a confrontation with the enemy, or a bitter experience.
Even a book or an article such as this one can trigger the inner mechanism that will make some people say, “I want it now!”
Therefore, while searching for your “hot button” of pure, raw desire, welcome into your life each positive experience. Don’t erect a wall to protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out your disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching
experiences. So let life touch you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life around.

4) RESOLVE

Resolve says, “I will.” These two words are among the most potent in the English language. I WILL. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British statesman, once said, “Nothing
can resist a human will that will stake even its existence on the extent of its purpose.” In other words, when someone resolves to “do or die,” nothing can stop him.
The mountain climber says, “I will climb the mountain. They’ve told me it’s too high, it’s too far, it’s too steep, it’s too rocky, it’s too difficult. But it’s my mountain. I will climb it. You’ll soon see me waving from the top or you’ll never see me, because unless I reach the peak, I’m not coming back.” Who can argue with such resolve?
When confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate and Circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, “We might as well let him have
his dream. He’s said he’s going to get there or die trying.”
The best definition for “resolve” I’ve ever heard came from a schoolgirl in Foster City, California. As is my custom, I was lecturing about success to a group of bright kids at a junior high school. I asked, “Who can tell me what “resolve” means?” Several hands went up, and I did get some pretty good definitions. But the last was the best. A shy girl from the back of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, “I think resolve means promising yourself you will never give up.” That’s it! That’s the best definition I’ve ever heard: PROMISE YOURSELF YOU’LL NEVER GIVE UP.
Think about it! How long should a baby try to learn how to walk? How long would you give the average baby before you say, “That’s it, you’ve had your chance”? You say that’s crazy? Of course it is. Any mother would say, “My baby is going to keep trying until he learns how to walk!” No wonder everyone walks.

There is a vital lesson in this. Ask yourself, “How long am I going to work to make my dreams come true?” I suggest you answer, “As long as it takes.” That’s what these four emotions are all about

 

 

“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.”

Lao Tzu quotes

 

 

A stupid man’s report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand. 

– Bertrand Russell


“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.”
–  Leo F. Buscaglia quotes

 

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  1. Anastasia Cunningham, Senior Gleaner Writer

    Out of the dark, heartbreaking sadness of a young life lost beams a beacon of light that brings laughter in between the tears, joy in the midst of grief.

    Inspired by The Gleaner’s story ‘Okeeffe Lewis, a bright light never to shine again’, published on Tuesday, reactions, encouragement, and offers have been pouring in from all over the world for Waterford High School.

    It was a heart-rending story of 17-year-old Okeeffe’s impact on the lives of so many before gunmen robbed him of his life in an early morning attack on his home.

    Okeeffe, affectionately called Bill, was the reserve goalkeeper for Waterford High’s Manning Cup football team. Since his murder, the team and the school have found a renewed sense of fortitude, and that extra push of determination to go on to win their semi-final match, and are now prepared to take home the cup today in the finals against many-time winner Jamaica College.

    It is the first time in the history of Waterford that the school has reached the finals.

    “We are doing this for Bill and Waterford!” the players said.

    Rallying support

    The sad irony? Okeeffe’s light really does continue to shine – even in death. Because of the tragedy, many are now rallying in support of the school and the team.

    Inspired by their determination, director of the international Jonathan Hibbert Foundation Football Tournament at Munro College, Copeland Lewis, has invited some of the Waterford football team players to the tournament scheduled for January 8, 2011, where the top boys will have a chance to earn scholarships to overseas colleges.

    Principal of Waterford High, Cecile Bernard, who is very passionate about her school and students, was quite excited about what was happening for her school and her boys. But she added, “It is sad, though, isn’t it? That something so good for the school is coming out of something so tragic.”

    She said ever since The Gleaner story, the school has been flooded with calls from all over, many concerned, offering support, condolences, and counselling for the boys.

    “Words cannot describe the effect that story had. It melted your heart, touched you to the core, and pulled on every nerve ending. It appealed to your every emotion,” said the principal.

    “People said although they never knew Okeeffe, after reading that story, they felt his very presence. It was like he was their very own,” she said.

    “The biggest concern everyone has is that when it is all over, after the game tomorrow, they will crash, and crash hard. And I suspect that it will be a delayed reaction. I think come next week Tuesday or Wednesday, as we prepare for the funeral, everyone will just hug each other and bawl. It will be like a dam let loose,” said Bernard.

    She said they were arranging some counselling for the boys starting next week.

    What also keeps Principal Bernard up at nights is Okeeffe’s mother, Marcia Petgrave. “Can you imagine being in her position? She lost everything. Although 11 of her children were spared, she lost all her worldly possessions; her youngest child that was her ray of hope; the love of her life, Okeeffe’s stepfather; her identity, because she has to relocate and start all over again. It’s like building back from ashes.”

    Tearful reflection

    Bernard stopped and with tears in her eyes, reflected. Then she said, “In spite of all this, life has to go on.”

    After another pause, she said: “It must be for a purpose. It just can’t be all in vain.”

    But Bernard has to be strong for her school and her boys. And so with hope in her heart, she said: “Tomorrow (today) will be our shining day of gold, because we will be like little David going up against the great Goliath. We want to win, not for win sake, but for the sense of accomplishment, a ray of hope.”

    Bernard said today should be an amazing day at the National Stadium at the Manning Cup finals because so many schools had called to say that they would be coming out in support of the boys.

    While The Gleaner was at the school, former mayor George Lee’s wife came to see the principal to offer support, and during the interview, Captain Horace Burrell called to make arrangements to be at the game.

    “Even the vendors at the school gate have been sending in condolence cards, and they are coming out, too. Okeeffe and that story have done an amazing thing for Waterford High,” she said.

    anastasia.cunningham@gleanerjm.com

  2. A goal is a dream with a deadline.
    Napoleon Hill

    Action is the real measure of intelligence.
    Napoleon Hill

    All achievements, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea.
    Napoleon Hill

    All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination, Imagination is the workshop of your mind, capable of turning mind energy into accomplishment and wealth.
    Napoleon Hill

    Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought.
    Napoleon Hill

    Before success comes in any man’s life, he’s sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit. That’s exactly what the majority of men do.
    Napoleon Hill

    Big pay and little responsibility are circumstances seldom found together.
    Napoleon Hill

    Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.
    Napoleon Hill

    Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you ready or not, to put this plan into action.
    Napoleon Hill

    Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.
    Napoleon Hill

    Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.
    Napoleon Hill

    Edison failed 10, 000 times before he made the electric light. Do not be discouraged if you fail a few times.
    Napoleon Hill

    Education comes from within; you get it by struggle and effort and thought.
    Napoleon Hill

    Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.
    Napoleon Hill

    Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit.
    Napoleon Hill

    Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to cut all sources of retreat. Only by doing so can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win – essential to success.
    Napoleon Hill

    Everyone enjoys doing the kind of work for which he is best suited.
    Napoleon Hill

    Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.
    Napoleon Hill

    First comes thought; then organization of that thought, into ideas and plans; then transformation of those plans into reality. The beginning, as you will observe, is in your imagination.
    Napoleon Hill

    Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.
    Napoleon Hill

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